Parent in Prison

Everyone reacts differently, and that’s okay. You might:

• Feel shocked or confused about what happened

• Miss them and worry about them

• Feel upset, angry, or abandoned

• Feel embarrassed or worried about what people will think

• Feel stressed about changes at home

• Struggle with school, sleep, or friendships

• Feel like you can’t talk about it

• Be unsure how to feel — and that’s okay too

Your emotions are valid. You don’t have to hide them.

When a parent is arrested or sent to prison, young people often blame themselves, even when they had nothing to do with it.

Here’s the truth:

• You didn’t cause this

• You can’t control their actions

• You’re allowed to feel whatever you feel

• You still deserve love, safety, and support

What happened is not a reflection of who you are.

Life might feel different for a while. You might notice:

Changes at Home

Routines, responsibilities, or money situations may change. You may be staying with one parent, a grandparent, or someone new.

Changes in Your Feelings

You might feel more emotional than usual, or feel like you’re keeping a big secret.

Changes in How Others Treat You

Some people may not understand what you’re going through. That’s their lack of knowledge — not your fault.

Changes in Family Relationships

You may feel closer to some people and further from others. That’s normal when things are shaken up.

Depending on your situation, you may be able to:

• Visit

• Phone

• Write letters

• Video call

If you want to stay in contact, that’s okay. If you don’t feel ready or comfortable, that’s okay too.
There is no “right” or “wrong” way to feel about seeing or contacting them.

Talk to a trusted adult about what you want.

It’s common to worry about what others might think.
You might be scared of being judged or treated differently.

But remember:

• You are not responsible for what happened

• You don’t owe anyone an explanation

• You are not defined by someone else’s choices

• You deserve respect and kindness no matter what

If someone does judge you, it says more about them than you.

Here are some things that can help:

✅ Talk to Someone You Trust

A teacher, youth worker, friend, or family member can support you. You don’t have to give details — just saying “I’m struggling at home” is enough.

✅ Write Your Feelings Down

Journals or notes can help you understand what’s going on inside.

✅ Take Time for Yourself

Do things you enjoy — games, music, sports, art, reading, or spending time with friends.

✅ Look After Your Body

Eat regularly, get sleep, and move your body. Stress feels heavier when you’re tired and hungry.

✅ Stay Connected

If it helps, keep in contact with your parent. If it doesn’t, you don’t have to.

✅ Remember You Are Allowed to Feel

There is no “correct” reaction.

It’s completely normal for school to feel harder when home life is stressful.
You can speak to:

• A teacher

• Pastoral staff

• Your HSIS Youth Worker

• A mentor or trusted adult

They can make adjustments, support you emotionally, and look out for you.

You are not “being dramatic” — you’re coping with something big.

If things feel unsafe at home or you’re worried about someone’s behaviour:

• Tell a trusted adult immediately

• Speak to your HSIS Youth Worker

• Talk to a teacher or school counsellor

You should never have to deal with fear or danger alone.